Memories , Memento, Memorandum , Memorabilia ,Memorable ,Memorial

People start making memories as soon as they are born (only if they can remember both agony and joy of your parents). Memories are made life long.. Friends, parents, pets, objects, anything can contribute to it. Major part of primary school and teenage is spent accumulating memories from friends and parents, When you start knowing about nuances of life, discussing it with your parents, silly pranks and what not,, That is the  starting of memories mixed with innocence, care and tenderness.. (well some kids are quite oblivion to such things.. so, let us move further). As our school ends, people get emotional, drown themselves in the pool of sorrows and present each others with a memento known as "scribbling day" .. On this day, friends meticulously jot down all the memories on your shirt or t-shirt which they fondly remember..

As we graduate from college , we are teary eyes..Bidding farewell to friends and hoping to see each other every weekend after having an arduous week in office. Giving each other "memorandums" , emotional notes and poems because they know they will be soon drowned in pool of "memorandums" by their bosses so only these notes and memorandums will keep the friends close. Then during office hours, between those lovely memorandums , those lovely HRs and secretaries ( a bit of fantasy element.. haha.. :D) , we build memories.. (Fantasies or/and memories, different people, different take :D) .
 We we get married and then we get memorandum from our spouse to get the errands from nearby store.. Nobody will be interested in this so we can skip this part.. :p :p

Someday, maybe going through the attic, old boxes, we find pictures, clothes, etc and that is our  "Memorabilia moment" . We have a faint smile at that time, (chances are ripe that we would have got scolded when it got misplaced in the first place). But then we go on memory lane and remember all the good memories. We try to share those pictures with friends. I found the class photograph of my nursery class and shared it with my friends. Everybody was bemused and happy to see it. I found  class picture of class 12th and again i shared it. That pic got over 60 likes  and more than 300 comments.!!  Now there was some rib tickling comments on that. kick ass..!!.:D


Sitting on a rocking chair, suddenly you stop rocking  and  then you are smiling while sipping tea or coffee, (I know.!! all these years, it was booze that was making you smile but not anymore.!!).. Then you think how memorable your life;s journey has been. And that time ,you should be proud about your life.Head should be held high beaming with joy..

Seems too much like a movie?? Because everybody's life is not like this. ??True..But everybody's life can be 'made' into a movie.!! It is just that the director should be able to craft it in a splendid way..!! Whether life is joyful or sorrowful, it should be  like a good movie and with that it means in that limited time, your life should evolve in a magnificent way.. and in the end , people should be smiling at your memorial talking lengths about your grandiose life.

Meaningful friendships but without 'meanings'...

Some friendships are built during awkward situations and at awkward places. Maybe because they are destined too.. (If you do not believe in destiny, then just believe they met for a purpose). I am an extrovert person.. I love meeting  people with new ideologies, different persona and perspective. And i do make friends for a long period of time. (I lose few of them after a long period time too). My memory suddenly flashes back and i remember that i made a lot of friends when 3 years old. I was in nursery and a naught kid.
I fondly remember making friends in a summer vacation camp sort of  thing in National Science Center at the age of 7 . I had a friend named "Harit Singh" . I never met him after that camp got over as there were no mobile phones at that time..Interesting part is, i met him when we were playing hide and seek in a maze of mirrors . And we bumped into each other, shook hands and went to the canteen to eat something..We used to understand each other without much usage of words ( surprisingly, i used to be a talkative and blabber mouth kid at that time).

I made friends in school.  A lot of them . Some parted ways, majority did not. Friends and friendships has evolved over a period of time. But sometimes, you tend to get censorious about your friends, their behavior and demeanor . And hence, for sometime you tend to stay away from them. You do miss them but you need a space where you can comfort yourselves without thinking of the fact that people might judge you. Your best friends do not judge you.. They kick your butts and support through thick and thin in your decision.

But sometimes, you find solace in a friend whom you just have met. You confide in them as you have ascertained the fact that they wont judge you. and even if they tell that conversation to somebody, it will hardly affect your life or theirs.

You find solace in such serendipity. It feels good because you  vent out things to newly formed friend or a random person. Sometimes your best friends also get tired of kicking your butts. Then you need to find somebody who can shake his/her butts along with yours and say aloud- " hakkkuuunaaahhhh mattaattaaaahhhh".. And whooossshhh.. Bye bye stress and tension.. Phewww....

These friendships may not remain for a long time in your life. But they do leave a lasting imprint.

P.S- Poker table can be a good place to find such people.. :D..

Addicted..But with a 'healthy' heart...

People get addicted to all sorts of things.. Cigarettes , alcohol, love .. But you often do not see people getting addicted to being a "philanthropist".. Confused??? How many people have innate habit of lending help to somebody in need , no matter what the consequences are.. Would you call this an addiction, habit or obsession??

Few benevolent souls have this 'addiction' of helping others, even they are not asking for help.. They go all the way to help them. Sometimes, it is not required.. Sometimes, it aggravates the situation of others. Sometimes, it is a personal issue which can not be disclosed but still people poke their nose. They just want to help without having any bad intention.!! When do not acknowledge their intentions or hurl back abuses for their interference tend to get disheartened or get 'anti social'. They do not understand a simple fact that you cannot help everybody. Some people like to have their own personal space, their share of pain , their own mind set to tackle the situation .. And life is a best teacher if you try to learn and analyze the lessons
!!! Pain and sorrow are part of life and everybody gets a share of it in their lives.

People need to accept that they cannot relieve everybody from their miseries.Their 'addiction' can be a nuisance to somebody. sometimes, you have to take a step back even if how much your heart is aching to extend that helping hand again and again. You need to curb the desire and just let go. Everybody learns from pain and miseries. If somebody does not, sigh....

Aaahh..Ooohh..Ouucch.. Sigghhh..:o :| :/ :'( :) :') :D.. (Females..!!!)

8th March is celebrated as International Women's Day. Even if  we forget , twitter and facebook helps you remind this.. or  i should rather say , people remind you with their heartwarming and emotional posts slapping you right into your news feeds..!!  anyways, that is not the point to be wailed about right now...


For Boys
So, women play a significant role in our lives. From the time we fall in love for the first time with our mother to the time we fall in love with a beautiful daughter of some another mother.. (both happening- " love at first sight" ).. They both imbibe in us different kind of emotions for the first time!! Then we have a best friend who is a girl and who gives most interesting and insane ideas to all our problems. problems as intricate as -" how to Gel my hair on the first date" to bigger problems like- "What will i do with my life and career?? No girlfriend is fine.. Forever alone, Done, but what about my life!!! :( ".. And BAMM.!! She comes up with the wackiest of answers to plunge us into splits. Then we forget about the worries of life and then starts the leg pulling session( childishness)..!!!.

If there is a girlfriend, then there is a whole lot of different scenario in your life..You don't care about your hair anymore because you are taking too much care of hers.. And alas you are busy complementing and pampering her.. apne baarein mein dhyaan kahan se aayega.. apne future and life ka bhi dhyaan kahan se aayega....!!.. and when the best friend comes up  to sprinkle  some sanity onto you, then you know  she has hit the hornet's nest this time.. a cold war, verbal war, emotional war starts between you three just because she interfered..!! verbal arguments , scathing messages, scalding exchange of looks.. and then it might end in a bad shape for you..ending up like loosing your best friend or your girlfriend..
And if it does not end this way, then probably after getting a good job and settled career, you find a girl , get married, have kids and life stays like that..

This a is just a bigger picture of the roller coaster ride of a guys life.. in short, " life mein tadka lagaati hain"...


For Girls
As I am not a girl so cant really know what goes inside their heads and what they feel about the prominence of other girls in their lives but from guys point of view , it goes like- " hi , hello, cutie pie pie, hot shot, aaawww , muuaaah, jealousy baby, that bitch,.!!!, poor you, etc etc.." blah blah ... It maybe just the bigger picture but who cares... blah.....

 International Women Day is commemorated not just to remember these spices of life which are because of them but to bestow them with respect and accolades for their contribution towards the society. It should be about safety and emancipation of women which have been debauched in certain countries and by certain sections of society. Hope this world becomes a better place for them and they get their  rights duly.. Amen....

The Second Chance

In life , we experience a lot of failed attempts..lot of times we are sure of a win or success but it eludes us  hence plunging us into despair and agony.. Sometimes, we do not give our best shot and realize its too late to repair the damage.. Then failure strikes us upfront leaving us beleaguered with constant thoughts of remorse and regret.. But even after this, life has a second chance for you.. but when you start for the second chance , this time success will take more time to come into your clutches than it would have taken in the first place if you had given your best shot earlier.. And it takes a lot more time and efforts just to teach us a lesson..

"When we have a broken relationship for the first time, we refrain ourselves from entering into second one.. There is abstinence from giving ourselves a second chance ".... this on is out of context so we can skip it..!!!

So how many of us have a introspection and think what we want to do in life.. How many of us ponder about what we like, we can do as a living .. Answer is-- Majority of people... How many of think about choosing a career option which  they have done it for free otherwise as they love doing it ...How many people take there interests to an ardent level and hence tasting blood..Answer-- handful of people..
Because either people are scared of giving themselves a 2nd chance for a new start or in the first place they
do not follow there interests.. Even if its not about following your interests , it comes down to the fact what gives you satisfaction .. A rhapsodic plus contended feeling should prevail when you are working professionally. Your work should make you feel proud and happy.. But how does this is linked to thought  " the second chance "...well somewhat, it is.. life gives you an another chance to make a decision whether to go for the chance or not.. We are scared of taking another path of success i.e following our interests and mastering them.. we tend to stick to prescribed path i.e becoming an engineer, doctor, law graduate etc.. But there are other opportunities , other un- trodden paths which can lead to success and satisfaction.. Success is about feeling exhilarated and contended about the work we do.. for that, we have to try and reach for 2nd chance or try to grasp in the first go... But most importantly ,Life, gives ,you, a , 2nd, chance, Always....,........

Pyaar ka punchnaama

Once, a girl and a guy  loved each other... they were both opposite in personalities ,but common in mentalities.. both had different lifestyles, but wanted to walk together 'all the miles".. both used to complete each other by giving part of their own lives to each other which other lacked otherwise...(sounds like a fairy tale story, bt it isnt).. "guy tried to become the perfect guy for her ". and he succeeded ..everything was right until the moment girl realised parents wont agree because they are from different castes. !!! damn it..... she dint even give him or her a chance to fight till the end.. !!!. when you cant fight  for the "thing called love" with which  once you wanted to spend your whole life with, how can you think of fighting the problems of whole life, hoping that  you will succeed..!!!!..gross....

Lot of people fall in love...some dont even feel it even exists..some dont believe ,that it 'exists'... Bt its not covetousness of love or the other person which transpires two people to stay together and think of spending their whole life with each other... lot more is there which meets the eye... its also depends on compatibility, education, wealth ,looks... they may be secondary things but primary thing for lot of people these days becomes god damn " CASTE" of the person... fuck.!!!! why.??? .. two person spend time with each other, love each other, compatibility is great, everything is rock solid except the fact that they belong to god damn two different castes.... "arey pyaaar kya jaat paat dekh ke kia tha.... pasand kia to uski caste dekhi thi ya insaan dekh tha....!!!"... this outrageous mentality is also ingrained and augmented by parents and families ,not solely by the children. honour killings are common these days. because people like to think on frivolous issues like caste ,creed and all... all it matters is two people want to stay with each other  and if they have what it takes to be with each other, nobody should interfere in that..period....rest is all bullshit.... 

EXPERIMENTING .... CHECK...........

Life becomes too mundane and boring when we take it too seriously... we get to much involved in the day to day work, just give into the monotonous routine and we forgot that there is a lot to achieve in life...Achievements start with experimenting...If you would not have tried walking, you would not have come to know that you can run also...!!!.. And its always good to experiment new things in life...

Its an ecstatic feeling when we fall in love for the first time, isn't it?? The first  crush, the first kiss, the first love , the first booze, the salary.!!!  Its rhapsodic when we try new things and they make us forget all our worries. SOME THINGS COME OUR WAY, FOR REST, WE HAVE TO PAVE THE WAY.!!!. Lot of people do not try to wallow  in things which doesn't bear them any profit ( profit from the virtue of time and money ).. I mean, adventure sports looks like a waste of money.. but are there to rejuvenate  and enjoy them with our brain shut( that part of the brain which has always been the store room of worries and "voraciousness" !!!...but they do not give us any profit ..they give us immense happiness and good memories for which we struggle in our lives daily anyway..

 We do not realise the importance of friends until we try making new friends, and good friends..!!!!.. aaahhh... i want to experience new aspects in life.... taking few steps at a time... trying to live in present because we cant control the future.. we can patronize the future by keeping ourselves happy  in the present... and that we do by experimenting new things
in life and try to find the nirvana out of them.... but as they say-"excess of everything is bad.."... even excess of experimentation ...